*Note: I wrote this in December (it's now May) , saved as draft and never posted! Yikes. It seems unfinished but I don't want to add to it because that seems wrong.
I regret the hiatus between posts - simply because I find it so daunting to figure out what exactly I should write about. The first phase of recovery, for me, means a lot has happened in a short amount of time. However, if I had to pick a topic, any topic - I would say it would have to be that Husband has officially began his recovery.
In 12 step recovery, we talk a lot about the importance of not getting wrapped up in someone else's recovery and to focus on ourselves, so I want to make it clear that my posting about his recovery doesn't mean that I'm taking responsibility or ownership for it. There are a few reasons I want to post about this. First, because it's a part of our story which means it's a part of mine. It changes things. It complicates things. And it also, more than anything, has transformed our marriage. Second, I want to share hope with anyone who comes across this blog.
I can't promise that two people in recovery means your marriage will be saved. Sex addiction is far more complicated than that and I have already seen that sometimes there is so much trauma in the marriage that the bleeding cannot be stopped. I empathize with these situations and I don't think it's lack of faith or lack of effort - it just is what it is. However, I can say that with just over a month of Husband attending SA meetings and seeing a therapist - the dynamics in our house, and our marriage, have improved for the better. Details to follow.
